How do we have a right?!?

Wow, its been a crazy week. I went to my 'ceminerion' to learn stuff for sherut next year- in two days more like....

We were there for 9 days and had a packed schedule. And even all that I still don't feel ready. How is it possible to be ready for it? Im going to be with kids who aren't living at home because of all different reasons, neglect, abuse- physical, sexual, 'milolit' (words).

So these kids come to live at this orphanage (not really an orphanage, more like a children home). However every other shabbos they go home. now they are taken out of there homes cuz they cant live there normally, so why do they go home? Because we want them to have a connection with there parents. Yah that a great connection- to go home to an abusive home or a home at which you know there will be NO food in the fridge.

besides those kids there are also some kids who don't go home those shabbosim cuz there parents will maybe kill them during the 30 hours they are there.

now you may ask, if they don't even go home every other week then why are they in a children's home and not put up for adoption? See they are taken out of their homes and put in this children home because we want to give them a 'normal' life. Now I live a normal life and I do not think that living in a children's home is a normal life.

ok so to the point why aren't they put up for adoption? Because there are many complications to put a kid up for adoption. One law is that the father has to give permission for the kid to be put up. Now think about this. The kid is being put up for adoption because the everyother week that the other kids go home, they cant because their father isn't home, where is he? he is in jail. How come? Because he killed his wife/ their mother in front of the kids.
NOW, that you understand the story, who in there right mind would ask the father permission? Why does he have a right to have a say in his kids life?

another question, Sunday morning comes and your 'chanich' - lets call him david, comes back from a shapes at home, one of your other chanichim- shmuel, gets david annoyed. So david reacts and starts cursing shumel. So what is your reaction? "david, stop, that is not the proper way to talk".
now lets analyze this picture.
david has just come back from a shabbos at home at which when he annoyed his little sister, his father started cursing him. Cursing him with words that we have never even heard.
now, how do we have a right to tell him to stop cursing if no one is telling his father not to?

How do we have a right?!?